“it is what it is”

IMG_0161The last weeks, I’ve been struggling with reality–pushing against walls that aren’t gonna budge, scraping my hands and bruising my head.

Yesterday, I visited my grandfather in the hospital (later in the afternoon, we moved him to a rehabilitation facility, praise God!), and the cantankerous, strong old man said to me over and over, “It is what it is.”  His body has gotten well enough to be discharged, but isn’t behaving quite the way younger, healthier bodies do; yet, instead of cursing this failing instrument, he said of the set back, “oh well, it is what it is.”  He doesn’t waste his time and little energy on anger or resistance to the reality that’s happening to him, he takes as deep a breath as he’s able to muster and said, “it is what it is.”  This is acceptance.  This is what I’ve been trying to learn through yoga over the last few years, and what I’m being pushed into in other areas of my life.

IMG_1080It is what it is.

On the way to the airport yesterday morning, talking about news and social media with my uncle, this 28-year-old admitted to a man in the journalism business that most of my news comes from Facebook.  My friends curate my awareness of the world most days, and I know it results in very little brand or site loyalty on my part, I told this man whose career is based in producing business journals.  He said, “That will make any media executive shake in his shoes” (as I knew it would), “but I just say, ‘okay, that’s the reality, so what do we do with it?'”  His optimism took me aback as dawn rose on the East coast, but I realized, too, that it simply pragmatism–this is reality, and that can’t be fought or wished away.

It is what it is.  what do we do now?

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Husband & I have been in Boston this weekend, visiting those college students who are retreating as part of the Augustine Collective, a network of Christian thought journals as elite universities throughout the US.

Here, I met another former editor (like husband) of the Harvard Ichthus, Jordan Monge, whose testimony was published in Christianity Today in 2013.  I heartily recommend it, and hope it warms your heart and encourages your spirit as it, the the retreat here, has mine.

Quotation of the Day

“…Oh, we have only so many words to think with.
Say God’s not fire, say anything, say God’s
a phone, maybe. You know you didn’t order a phone,
but there it is. It rings. You don’t know who it could be.
You don’t want to talk, so you pull out
the plug. It rings. You smash it with a hammer
till it bleeds springs and coils and clobbery
metal bits. It rings again. You pick it up

and a voice you love whispers hello.”

Jeanne Murray Walker, Staying Power

Liturgy: It’s not the Work of the People


“I hope and pray that those charged with being custodians of the Church’s worship will do so in a way that honors the gifts and talents of their congregations.” Words on liturgy by the Rev. Canon Robert Hendrickson

Originally posted on The Sub-Dean's Stall:

One of the more persistent phrases one hears in Episcopal Church circles is that the liturgy is “the work of the people” based on a translation of the Greek word Leitourgia.  This translation of the word often is then used as a way to say that the liturgy should be more “participatory” or involve more lay people in planning or more responsive to the desires of laity.  I would actually agree with all of these though I might quibble with what any of them actually means.

For example, if we say the liturgy should be more “participatory” this is often interpreted as meaning lay people say more or do more.  Yet in a culture in which we are constantly pressured to do and say the actually challenging act of participation may be to simply adore – to learn to be present with our hearts opened to God’s.

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Jesus is the Answer

Originally posted on That Blessed Dependancy:

A Sermon Preached on the Second Sunday after the Epiphany, January 18, 2015

By the Rev’d Canon Dane E. Boston, Trinity Cathedral, Columbia, South Carolina

Texts: I Corinthians 6:12-20; John 1:43-51

May I speak in the Name of God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Ghost. Amen.

Questions. Our readings this morning are filled with questions. We began with Paul asking the Corinthians, “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Do you not know that you are a temple of the Holy Spirit within you? Do you not know that you are not your own?” Then in our Gospel, we heard Nathanael ask Philip, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” just before he asks Jesus, “Where did you get to know me?” And after earnest Nathanael makes his remarkable confession of faith, finally we heard Jesus himself ask, “Do you believe because…

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An Alcohol Free Lent: A Season of Repentance and Reflection


Join Canon Robert Hendrickson, and me, this Lent.

Originally posted on The Sub-Dean's Stall:

To this point I have refrained from public comment on the tragic death of a cyclist who died because of the brokenness of an Episcopal bishop in Maryland. There has been much comment on the culpability of the bishop, the diocese, and the discernment committee who put her name forward despite previous troubles with alcohol.

bible There has also been much written on the need for both justice and mercy in cases such as this. There has also been a good deal of emotion in debates about what it means for us to welcome into leadership those who continue to struggle with issues of addiction.

On Facebook today, a friend sent along an idea that I thought both sensible and spiritually valuable. He wrote the following:

“Like everyone in the Episcopal Church, I’ve been torn, dumbfounded, and mortified by the events of Maryland: what it says about the episcopacy and church…

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